Times It's Okay To Be Selfish

Times It's Okay To Be Selfish

When you hear the word “selfish,” what’s the first thing that comes to mind? It’s often linked to negative traits like putting your own needs before everyone else’s. But what if, every now and then, being selfish is exactly what you need? Taking care of yourself isn’t about neglecting others; it’s about ensuring that you have the energy, health, and mental clarity to show up as your best self. In fact, sometimes prioritizing yourself is essential to sustaining your responsibilities to others. Here are nine times when it’s perfectly okay—and even necessary—to be a little selfish.


1. When You Need Sleep

We’ve all been there—running on fumes and still trying to power through. But chronic sleep deprivation doesn’t just affect your mood, it impacts everything from decision-making to your immune system. You might snap at loved ones or make critical errors at work, all because you’re exhausted. Take time to rest and recharge when your body demands it. It's difficult to work and care for your family when you can’t even keep your eyes open—it’s okay to prioritize sleep so you can function at your best for everyone else.


2. When You Need Help

Many of us are used to juggling multiple responsibilities—work, home, friends, and more. But the truth is, no one can do it all alone. Sometimes, you need to lean on others for support, and that’s okay. Asking for help isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a recognition that you are human. For example, if you’re feeling overwhelmed with housework and deadlines, consider asking your kids to tidy up their own rooms or your spouse to cook dinner. This simple act of seeking help frees you up to manage your own stress and workload.


3. When You Are Burnt Out

It’s common to feel burnt out when you’ve been running on all cylinders for too long. Whether it’s work obligations or personal commitments, the pressure can pile up quickly. If you’re feeling like you’re running on empty, it’s time to take a step back. Your co-workers and family can manage without you for a bit, and when you return, you’ll be more refreshed and capable. Burnout is real, and taking time to rejuvenate is essential for long-term productivity.


4. On Your Off Hours

Being connected 24/7 is exhausting. We all need time away from the constant ping of notifications and emails. When you clock out for the day, it’s perfectly okay to stay clocked out. Taking a real break from work will not only improve your mental health but also help you to be more present with your family and in your personal life. When you get home after a long day, try setting your phone on “Do Not Disturb” for a few hours. This gives you the freedom to enjoy dinner with your family or to relax without distractions.


5. When You Need to be Alone

There are times when the noise of life—whether it’s from work, social commitments, or even family—can feel overwhelming. Being around people constantly can drain your energy. Taking time for yourself, whether it’s through a walk in nature, reading a book, or simply being alone, is crucial for maintaining your mental well-being.


6. When You’re Sick

When you’re sick, the world doesn’t stop spinning. But that doesn’t mean you need to keep up with its pace. Whether you’ve got the flu or are just feeling run down, your body needs time to recover. It’s not selfish to turn down social invites or take a sick day from work—it’s necessary.


7. To Get or Remain Healthy

Health isn’t just about avoiding sickness—it’s about being proactive. Whether it’s making time for exercise, meal prepping healthy food, or visiting your doctor for regular check-ups, focusing on your health is an investment in yourself. Don’t let anyone make you feel selfish for taking care of your body—it’s the foundation of everything else in your life.


8. When Dealing With a Life Challenge

Grief, loss, or significant life changes can take a toll on anyone. It’s okay to press pause and step back from responsibilities to process your emotions. Whether it’s the loss of a loved one, a breakup, or a job loss, you are allowed to take time for yourself during these challenging moments. Healing requires attention, and it's perfectly fine to ask for space or time to process.


9. When Relationships or Situations Are Toxic

You don’t owe anyone your energy if they’re draining it or causing you harm. Toxic relationships or negative environments can severely impact your mental health. Whether it’s a friendship, family member, or workplace dynamic that’s become toxic, it’s okay to distance yourself for the sake of your well-being. For example, if you find yourself dreading interactions with a certain person who constantly criticizes or belittles you, it’s time to set boundaries or even walk away from that relationship. Your mental health should come first.


In these situations, being “selfish” isn’t really selfish at all—it’s about ensuring you’re in the best position to show up for yourself and others. By putting your needs first when it matters, you’ll have more energy, patience, and focus to give to the people and tasks that need you most. So, the next time you feel guilty for prioritizing yourself, remember that it’s not only okay, it’s essential.



FAST-ACTION STEPS


✅ Take inventory of your current activities. Find ways to schedule some time to rest, relax, and recharge.


✅ Establish ‘off hours’ for answering emails and texts from co-workers. Use this time to engage with your family or have a quiet evening.


✅ Ask for help in an area you need it. Dividing and conquering tasks will open your schedule for other opportunities.

 

Quote:

“I live to succeed, not to please you or anyone else.” – Marilyn Monroe

 



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