How To Deal With Negative People

How To Deal With Negative People

Negative people are everywhere. We have all dealt with a cranky coworker or a cynical friend. In either case, you need specific tools to help you handle these kinds of people. Here are nine tips to get you started:



1. Never Assume You Know Why They Are Negative

Never assume you know what is wrong with an overly negative person. Without more info, you have no idea what issue is causing a person’s negative outburst. Your assumptions won’t help the situation for anyone involved.



2. Listen to Them Without Judging Them

Sometimes negative people just need someone to vent to. If you care for the person, you should let them vent and try to offer helpful advice when asked. Don't be afraid to set boundaries if it starts to negatively impact your mindset, though.



3. Limit Exposure to The Negativity

When you can, try and avoid dealing with overly negative people. You might not want to do this with your closest loved ones, but do you have to make time for everyone?

 

4. Avoid Placing Blame

You might want to tell someone to cheer up and stop being negative. This rarely works and often makes the person feel worse. It may take some extra effort but try to show them compassion and empathy. Caring and understanding are often what a person wants most.



5. Place and Maintain Boundaries

Having healthy boundaries helps you maintain both your own emotions and the relationship. While caring is important, you don't have to be a doormat. Let people know what you will and won't accept; if they care about you, they will listen.



6. Redirect the Conversation

Negative people sometimes stay trapped in their negative thinking. You may be able to help them come out of their negativity by redirecting the conversation towards something more neutral. Don't dismiss their thoughts. Instead, acknowledge them and then move the conversation towards something more calming.



7. Keep Your Emotions In Check

It can be hard to be in the presence of a negative person. You may even lose patience and want to lash out. Your goal should be to respond kindly and with positivity. Getting upset will only cause more negativity for everyone.



8. Don’t Take It Personally

Often, overly negative people deal with issues you aren't privy to. Even if you feel like you are the lightning rod for someone's negativity, don't take it personally. They are likely dealing with issues far more complex than their relationship with you.



9. You Might Need to Seek Support

If you notice that someone you care about seems to be growing more negative, you might need to look for support. Other friends, family, or even a professional might be able to give you some tips (or help) on addressing the situation.



FAST-ACTION STEPS



✅ Make a list of negative people you interact with. Is it possible to limit your exposure to any of them?


✅ Focus on yourself. Make sure you are taking the right steps to ensure you maintain a healthy mindset.


✅ Practice more empathy with negative people. Try to understand where the negativity comes from and what may be causing it.

 

Quote:

“When you have a dream, you've got to grab it and never let go.” - Carol Burnett

 

 

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